Getting support

There are no magic solutions, but support and affection from friends and family may help you to cope with the situation.

• You may find that discussing problems in a support group with others who have had similar experiences helps you feel less unusual or alone.  Having a good laugh or cry in the company of others who understand, can also help.
• You may prefer to talk about your feelings on a one-to-one basis with your doctor, a community mental health nurse or a good friend who can give you the time and understanding you need.
• If you find it difficult to talk to someone you already know, talking to a trained counsellor may help.  Counselling won't change the situation but it may help you accept it and make some choices for yourself.

If you do seek help from a counsellor, make sure it is someone who is properly trained and experienced in this field, because anyone can set up as a counsellor.  Ask for a recommendation from someone you trust.  Check the fees before making an appointment.